Should you Expect for Him to Pay for the Date?

Picture courtesy of RollingOut.com

Robin's Take

We chatted this up last week on the show and the consensus was that YES a man (a real one at least) should pay the tab on the first date.  If it were up to me he should pay on all dates from then on.  I mean isn't that what your mama taught you?  I saw this article on one of my favorite FB friends pages and can agree with most of what the author wrote. It's from a males perspective and he suggest that the first date is the guys responsibility but as the relationship develops some equal sharing of date events is recommended.  Hmmm...I mean I don't mind getting the popcorn on movie night but don't go slipping me the bill at Grand Lux.  IJS

Erika's Take

Seeing that I have been out of the "dating scene" for well over 20 years my views of this subject may be well....out of date.  However when I was actually "dating" my philosophy was that the man should be the one to pick up the tab for the date.  It was/is also my belief that the man should open up the doors (car included) and help the lady to her seat as well.  For all the dates there after, I believe that the man should expect to "pay" for the date however the woman can offer to split the bill or pay for drinks.  After you have established the "relationship" then I too agree with the author of the blog post Single Black Male:Should Women Still Expect Men To Pay For Dates? that there should be a discussion on who pays for what in the relationship.  I'm all about letting the man/woman know what the dating expectations are up front so that there will be no surprises/disappointments as the relationship progress.  There is nothing wrong with buying the drinks, or snacks at the movies or even splitting the dinner tab sometime, but let me offer.  Don't ask "me" out and then expect to slide the bill to me when it's time to pay because you will surely find yourself busting suds to cover your half of the bill while I have moved on to the next one!


Don't forget to listen tonight (9PM EST) as we continue our 2nd part of Love and Relationships with the NightCap crew on Wednesday Wind Down. 

StyleDIVA | Weekend with a Dare

Yes Erika put it out there that we are doing the Essence 20 Summer Dares Challenge and so far I've done a few and have gained some hutzpa!  LOL  So here is a glimpse of this past weekend where I did Dare #5 Learn A New Dance.  While going hard at my workout I happened upon a Hip Hop Hustle training class and was pulled into a 1 1/2 hour class (after working the treadmill).  Needless to say I LOVED it and can't wait to find another class in this area. 

That's Jessica my Hip Hop Hustle instructor in the first pic!  Living by this motto till this challenge is over.  You all gonna join us?  I've listed all of the DARES below. 

1.  Sport Orange Lips (check)

2.  Rock a Throw Back Hairstyle

3.  Take the Pretty Panty or Bra Challenge (check)

4.  Make a "Who Says Black Women Don't" Statement

5.  Learn a New Dance

6.  Do a One Room Mini Makeover

7.  Get "BlueIvy" Nails

8.  Add Vivid Colors

9.  Go Natural (check)

10.  Keep a Promise

11.  Try New Flavor

12.  Make a Friend

13.  Try Aerial Yoga (hmmm, not sure about this one)

14.  Speak a New Language

15.  Record a YouTube Video

16.  Get a New Hobby

17.  Surprise Him

18.  Take a Spur-of-the-Moment Trip

19.  Court Fame

20. Get Two-Toned Hair Color

Promise to post a follow up to this adventure.  Have fun and don't forget to let us know how you fair with the challenges.  Good luck!

With Style,

StyleDIVA



San Dimas Jazz Fest

San Dimas Jazz Fest by favorevtmgt featuring vintage bangles

Week in Review

Real Celeb Reality Moment

With sadness we report the passing of Sly Stallone's son, Sage Stallone.  Sage appeared with him in Rocky IV and was only 36 years old.  It's being reported that his death is a result of a pill overdose.  Prayers for Sly and his family.




                                                                                                          Favorite Reality TV Moment


We know you all are watching Love and Hip Hop, Atlanta even though you despise it.  We had to post this pick of Stevie J because it's just well....comical.  Is this a dead ringer for Master Splinter or what?  #Fool




StyleDIVA Moment

Just got the kautetess one shoulder top from Targee today!  It rocks!  Go check it out.  Summer GLAM.

Cocktail Erika Moment

Erika's favorite drink of the week can be found right here.  Let's just say she made her's a hard one.  LOL, Enjoy!

http://cocktailsandconversation.blogspot.com/2012/07/wednesday-nightcap-make-mine-hard-one.html

Catch us tomorrow morning 8AM EST at www.blogtalkradio.com/cocktailsandconversations. 

Wednesday Nightcap | Make mine a HARD one please

As in Woodchuck Hard Cider that is....Granny Smith flavor please!  Nothing says refreshing than sipping on this cold beverage (in a frosted glass of course) and just unwind from a long hard day of whatever.  Yep, this is just what I'll be doing tonight!

Check out the Woodchuck Hard Cider website to read the story behind their delicious ciders, check out their core flavors, delicious recipes using their ciders, and to see where you can find it in your neck of the woods.  


Oh and don't forget to follow them on Twitter @WoodchuckCider and "like" their Facebook page.  And while you're there tell them the Cocktails and Conversation Divas sent ya!

What's on your "To Do" list for the summer

Summer is in full swing and Robin and I are busy trying to keep the kiddos entertained, planning vacations, work, booking guest for upcoming shows, producing shows, writing blogs and the list goes on and on and on.  In the midst of all of the "To Dos" that we need to get done, we believe that it's also important to throw in a little "fun" here and there.

Robin's July "To-Do" board

Erika's July "To-Do" board

As you know, Robin is always participating in some sort of challenge (remember the 28 Day diet) and this summer she doesn't disappoint.  About a week ago she mentioned that she would be participating in the  Essence 20 Summer Dares Challenge this month and of course I could let her do it alone!  This summer it's all about stepping outside of the box and trying something new.  We will both post updates on our progress, so make sure to check back often.

What is on your summer to-do list?  We'd love to here from you.  Post a comment below and let us know what you have planned.

Have a great summer!

Bagasm | Pick a bag, any bag

How many can you rock?

Bagasm by favorevtmgt featuring burberry bags